One of the symptoms of the abused and neglected child are the LIES! It goes far beyond the "normal" lies and stories that most children tell. They lie about everything - even things that don't need to be lied about.
We had felt like we were making some progress in this area, but the last few weeks have proven that the problem is escalating, and creating a situation that is potentially harmful to our own well being.
Several years ago one of "our kids" older sisters who lives in NO with their mom, asked the kids stepfather if she could come here to live. When he said no, she told authorities that he had sexually abused her. This resulted in an investigation by CPS. Our girls were very aware of what had transpired and the chaos and hurt that their big sister was able to inflict on their stepfather.
When our G12 turned her lies on us, we had no choice. We cannot open ourselves up to this type of accusation. We will still be able to spend time with her, but it will be at stepfather's house. It makes us very sad not to be able to have her around.
We think that G12 feels trapped in a triangle - she isn't sure who she should be loyal to; her big sister "mom"~ her stepfather ~ or us. We feel that taking ourselves out of this triangle might be beneficial to G12 in that she may be forced to bond with her stepfather, something that she has not done to this point.
For those of you who know and love G12, we hope you understand and continue to love her as we do!
S
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